Tag Archives: intimacy

Expectations, Context and Acknowledgement

Posted on April 8, 2013 by

Does the history or context of a relationship effect what you need to feel acknowledged? For example, if you have a history of shared finances, are you then more likely to need to feel credited or acknowledged for your history … Continue reading →

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Empathy, Structural Integrity, and Transformation

Posted on February 22, 2013 by

Do we need empathy? Does empathy increase the strength or structural integrity of a relationship? I am continuing with my theme: What do we need? What do we need to feel connected and nurtured in relationships? How can we create … Continue reading →

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Venus: What do We Need?

Posted on June 8, 2012 by

The Venus Transit was earlier this week but its impact may be felt strongly until Venus goes direct on 6/24. I like this topic because it resonates with some core themes that I have always tried to focus on with … Continue reading →

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Releasing Defense, Creating Peace

Posted on May 1, 2012 by

People often claim to be listening when what they are really doing is calculating a rebuttal. Although their rebuttal may be valid, responding to someone in a defensive way only escalates relationship conflicts. People want to be “heard” and to … Continue reading →

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Internet Dating Part IV: Establishing Trust:

Posted on February 27, 2012 by

As I said in part three – I recommend avoiding “interviewing” when you meet someone online or otherwise. But some people do ask a lot of questions, mostly because they are insecure and not present with the natural flow of … Continue reading →

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Internet Dating #2: Getting Beyond the Fantasy

Posted on January 19, 2012 by

Fantasy and The Fantasy Bond (Chapter 23 of my book) are important issues to address in all relationships, but fantasy may be at its highest in Internet dating. It is natural that as you read profiles you will be hoping … Continue reading →

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Make Your Partner a Better Lover Part III: Commitment Phobia

Posted on August 26, 2011 by

The term commitment phobia invokes images of the fear being suffocated or trapped in a bad relationship. While this is part of the issue, a more common pattern, and more valuable use of the term is that people fear commitment … Continue reading →

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